When Anger Hurts

If you don't deal with it, your anger can build pressure and explode like a time bomb, injuring your health, your self-esteem and development, your relationships, your loved ones, and yourself. Anger may feel good for the moment, but in the end, it hurts. This new edition of the classic exploration of anger teaches you all about its causes, consequences, and alternatives. You'll see how anger can become a tool, a weapon, or a shield for protecting boundaries. You'll unlearn the myth that anger is a natural, healthy response. And you'll come to understand that anger is neither an instinct nor a biochemically controlled event. It is a choice. You can choose to overcome anger by asking yourself key questions, such as, "What stresses underlie my anger?", "How can I negotiate for what I want instead of getting mad?", and "What can I do to meet my own needs, instead of blaming others for not satisfying them?" Filled with practical exercises and proven techniques, this updated version of When Anger Hurts incorporates the latest research on anger management and includes new chapters on road rage, parental anger, and emergency anger control. You'll learn how to develop your own strategies for controlling angry impulses, how to recognize and challenge anger-triggering thoughts, and how to cool down before things get really hot.