To Grieve Is to Carry Another Time: A Memoir

"Matthew Salesses has spent his entire career writing about the ways his protagonists are made invisible, but what happens when it happens in reality? In his vulnerable, tender, and viscerally honest memoir, TO GRIEVE IS TO CARRY ANOTHER TIME, Salesses traces his journey from having to make sense of his Asian appearance while growing up in an adopted white family and in a white town, to being perceived as a foreigner in Korea, to slowly accepting-and then embracing-his identity as an Asian American. We accompany him as he falls in love with Cathreen, who teaches him how to love Korea and being Korean, and we rejoice with him when they marry and have children. We also grieve with him when she dies of stomach cancer and the time spent sitting in loss becomes a burden. TO GRIEVE IS TO CARRY ANOTHER TIME is a stunningly beautiful, deeply thought-provoking meditation in the vein of such classics as Minor Feelings, All You Can Never Know, and Bad Feminist. Salesses marries the craft of bold storytelling with a very personal story on the many identities he holds to give us an unforgettable journey on forgiveness, fatherhood, and faith in oneself"--