STILL THE ELDEST DAUGHTER: How the Fixer, the Reliable One, and the Girl Who Never Got to Be aKid Learns to Put Herself Down for a Minute

She’s not tired because she does too much — she’s tired because she never stops scanning for what might go wrong. This is the book for the woman who became the fixer in her family, her marriage, and her job without ever applying for the role.If you’re the one who remembers the allergies, smooths the tension before it starts, and answers the 11pm call because not answering feels like a betrayal — this book explains why, and what to actually do about it.Inside, you’ll find:Why usefulness got wired to worth in childhood, and how to unfuse themThe physiological cost of decades of hypervigilance — and how to retrain itReal scripts and practices for work, marriage, and motherhood, not just reassuranceThis isn’t a book that tells you you’re not alone. It’s a book that shows you the mechanism — and gives you a way out.